Sara 'The Mass' Massoud

Running in Heels

Check out the YouTube V-log segment that accompanies this blog at:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a5ogvzh_6Kc&feature=plcp

Are you an independent woman who juggles a career, a social life, a family, and more?  Let’s look at how a woman’s role in society has changed and how men are adapting to it, as well as what this means for relationships.  Whether you own your own business, are the CEO of a company, or report to the corporate setting every day, women make up a huge portion of the work force, and we bring our game faces to the job.  Although we might be juggling personal obligations, family life, relationship issues, and social pressures, we still walk in every day and sweep the rest of our lives aside to be dedicated and focused to our work.  Fifty years ago, a woman’s role was at home with her family; her list of obligations existed of house chores, raising the children, and being a great wife; a woman’s shoes were rarely scuffed in those days. Nowadays we run our heels into the ground, running from appointments to meetings, then home to throw dinner together and carve out time for our significant others and families, in the mix of trying to pay bills, clean the house, do the laundry, and still have time for socializing and relaxation.  Solo or coupled, with or without children, working women have taken on the role of Superwoman in various respects; we might as well be flying around wearing capes instead of running in heels.

So with all of that said, how do we create balance in our relationships with men?  Are we bringing so much masculine energy from our independent working lives to the table that we are not enabling men to be men?  If you are like me, I look around and wonder where have all the good men gone, and what has happened to chivalry?  I always think of the image of the strong warrior going off to war to fight for his country and protect his family. Is that image just a fairytale? or have we just evolved so far past those traditional days, with shifting gender roles in society, that men have been forced to be more passive when it comes to relationships.  Even looking to our parents’ and grandparents’ generations, men still opened doors for women and acted like gentlemen in every way.  So the question I pose is, do we need to be more gentle as women in order to find the gentleman in our partner?  The irony is that the ‘gentle’man is actually a strong, assertive, and romantic man.  But what I mean by gentle woman is, do we need to show our men a softer side in order to enable them to show us their strong assertive characteristics, and how do we find that balance? 

I believe communication is everything in relationships.  It’s important that if you are independent and your career is important to you that you find a balance, and you express that to your partner in such a way that you can be mutually supportive of each other.  So that you can both bring home victories from work, celebrate successes, mourn the losses, and navigate through life together without one person dominating and the other following.  It’s all about balance, give and take, and sometimes remembering it’s okay to just be a woman and let the man be a man.  I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic and how it pertains to your relationships or dating experiences, as well as how you feel about your role in society as a woman.

Feel free to comment on this blog or drop a note to sara@realeyesthetruth.com.

Truthfully yours,

~ Sara M.